# Dating Again After Divorce > Organized by where you are in the process, not by how fast anyone thinks you should move. Dating Again After Divorce is for people who are separated or divorced, at any age, and thinking about what comes next. Every article is sourced and checked. We are not lawyers or therapists, and we say so when a question needs one. Part of the BUMIS network. Not legal, financial or therapeutic advice. Publisher: BUMIS (https://getbumis.com). BUMIS: Your Dating Mirror, a private app for seeing your own dating patterns. Every article lists its sources, author, publish date and last-updated date. General information, not therapy or professional advice. ## Articles - [How do you know you're ready to date after divorce?](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/dating-again/how-to-know-you-are-ready-to-date-after-divorce/): There is no set timeline. Readiness looks less like a date on the calendar and more like curiosity about someone new, not relief from being alone. (Dating again, updated 2026-10-01) ## By the numbers - 30% of U.S. adults have ever used a dating site or app. Source: Pew Research Center, The who, where and why of online dating in the U.S. (2023; 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022): https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/02/02/the-who-where-and-why-of-online-dating-in-the-u-s/ - Half of single U.S. adults are not looking for a relationship or dates right now. Source: Pew Research Center, A profile of single Americans (2020; U.S. adults, 2019 survey): https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ - 78% of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes. Source: Forbes Health and OnePoll, reported by Deseret News, Dating app burnout survey (2024; 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year): https://www.deseret.com/lifestyle/2024/09/04/dating-app-burnout/ - 39% of U.S. singles have used AI somewhere in their dating lives, most often for messages and profiles. Source: Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 15th annual Singles in America study (2026; About 5,000 U.S. singles): https://mtch.com/news/match-unveils-15th-annual-singles-in-america-study/ ## Further reading (other publishers) Hand-picked outside sources we point readers to. Linked, not copied. - [Dating After a Breakup](https://www.gottman.com/blog/dating-after-a-breakup/): The Gottman Institute. Advice on not rushing, meeting in person sooner, and keeping your ex out of early dates. - [Self-Compassion Eases the Pain of a Divorce](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/self-compassion_eases_the_pain_of_a_divorce): Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley. Research showing that people who treat themselves kindly after divorce recover with less distress. - [Understanding the 5 Stages of Grief After a Breakup](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/stages-of-grief-breakup): Cleveland Clinic. Frames the loneliness after a split as part of grief and explains why avoiding it keeps you stuck. - [Healthy divorce: How to make your split as smooth as possible](https://www.apa.org/topics/divorce-child-custody/healthy): American Psychological Association. Psychologists explain the anger, grief and fear divorce stirs up and how to manage them without lasting damage. - [Tips for Co-Parenting After Divorce](https://mcpress.mayoclinic.org/parenting/tips-for-co-parenting-after-divorce/): Mayo Clinic Press. Practical rules for communicating with an ex, keeping schedules steady, and shielding kids from conflict. - [Making stepfamilies work](https://www.apa.org/topics/families/stepfamily): American Psychological Association. What helps when a new partner joins a family with children, including how a new adult should ease in. - [How to Heal from Past Relationships](https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-heal-from-past-relationships/): The Gottman Institute. Guidance on working through old relationship wounds so they shape your next relationship less. - [The full list, by topic](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/reading/) ## Tools - [8-question dating pattern check](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/): runs in the browser, stores nothing, returns one of 9 public pattern cards. - [Full Speed](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/full-speed/): You feel it early and you let yourself run with it. - [Slow Burn](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/slow-burn/): You wait until you are sure, and you are rarely sure early. - [Clear Sky](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/clear-sky/): Not knowing where you stand is the hardest part for you. - [Open Ended](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/open-ended/): You are comfortable letting things stay undefined. - [Home Pull](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/home-pull/): You are drawn to a feeling you already know. - [New Horizon](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/new-horizon/): You go looking for something different each time. - [Long Goodbye](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/long-goodbye/): You stay past the point where it stopped working. - [Clean Break](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/clean-break/): When it is over, you are gone. - [Even Keel](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/quiz/even-keel/): No single lean stands out in your answers. ## Experts - Eli J. Finkel (Credentialed source): Research on how modern marriage and long term relationships work, and what partners expect from each other. Professor of Psychology and of Management and Organizations, Northwestern University; director of the Relationships and Motivation Lab. Profiles: X @EliJFinkel (https://x.com/EliJFinkel). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Esther Perel (Trending voice): Desire, infidelity and the tensions inside long term relationships, often through real couples sessions on her podcast. Profiles: Instagram @estherperelofficial (https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/); TikTok @estherperel_official (https://www.tiktok.com/@estherperel_official). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Julie Menanno (Credentialed source, Trending voice): How couples get stuck in conflict cycles and how to feel secure with a partner. Licensed marriage and family therapist (MA, LMFT, LCPC); author of Secure Love. Profiles: Instagram @thesecurerelationship (https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/); TikTok @thesecurerelationship (https://www.tiktok.com/@thesecurerelationship). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Kate Anthony (Trending voice): Coaching and podcast conversations for women deciding whether to stay in or leave a marriage, and rebuilding life after divorce. Profiles: Instagram @thedivorcesurvivalguide (https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcesurvivalguide/); TikTok @thedivorcesurvivalguide (https://www.tiktok.com/@thedivorcesurvivalguide). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Lori Gottlieb (Credentialed source): What happens in the therapy room, including breakups, dating choices and the stories people tell about love. Psychotherapist; author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and The Atlantic's Dear Therapist column. Profiles: Instagram @lorigottlieb_author (https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Pepper Schwartz (Credentialed source): Research and writing on love, sex and relationships, including dating and partnership later in life. Sociologist (PhD, Yale); Professor Emerita of Sociology, University of Washington. Profiles: Instagram @dr_pepper_schwartz (https://www.instagram.com/dr_pepper_schwartz/). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Ramani Durvasula (Credentialed source, Trending voice): Narcissistic and high conflict relationships, and recovering after leaving one. Licensed clinical psychologist; Professor Emerita of Psychology, California State University, Los Angeles. Profiles: Instagram @doctorramani (https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/); TikTok @doctorramani (https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorramani). Last checked 2026-10-01. - Paul C. Brunson (Trending voice): Matchmaker, TV host and author who talks about finding and keeping love, modern dating trends, and relationships at every stage of life. Profiles: Instagram @paulcbrunson (https://www.instagram.com/paulcbrunson/); TikTok @paulcbrunson (https://www.tiktok.com/@paulcbrunson). Last checked 2026-10-01. - [All experts and how we label them](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/experts/) ## About - [All articles, newest first](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/articles/) - [About Dating Again After Divorce](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/about/) ## Optional - [Full text of every article](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/llms-full.txt) - [Machine-readable catalog (JSON)](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/index.json) - [RSS](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/feed.xml) - [Sitemap](https://datingagainafterdivorce.com/sitemap.xml)