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Dating againThe Gottman Institute
Dating After a Breakup (opens gottman.com)
Advice on not rushing, meeting in person sooner, and keeping your ex out of early dates.
Brutal endingGreater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley
Self-Compassion Eases the Pain of a Divorce (opens greatergood.berkeley.edu)
Research showing that people who treat themselves kindly after divorce recover with less distress.
Loneliness afterCleveland Clinic
Understanding the 5 Stages of Grief After a Breakup (opens health.clevelandclinic.org)
Frames the loneliness after a split as part of grief and explains why avoiding it keeps you stuck.

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